I’ve just been reading back over the last year of my Blog and what a moaning minnie am I? it’s all doom and gloom. So…….. here’s my update.
May — My 40th Birthday. I went to my sisters a few days before the event and when I walked into her house she had decorated it with ’40′ banners and balloons. She had commisioned a friend of hers to make me a cake and it was amazing. it was black and white whith a triquetra in the centre. I felt so loved when I walked into her house and she really made it special for me. She bought me loads of little pressies and also my fave perfume.
The girls from work all clubbed together and got me a voucher for superdrug, I got jewellery and champers from other work mates, actually I got a fair bit and felt quite spoilt and special.
Eldest son….sort of forgot… less said aboutt aht the better. 2nd son got my a gorgeous cat and some wine glasses with Cats etched on them. Daughter got me a card (which I paid for…lolol) and wrote me a beautiful poem. Youngest son started making me a card the night before my brithday and the pc monitor packed up. I bought a new one the very next day and he finsihed it when he came home from school. On the actual day daughter and I met up with some friends and we went for lunch. I had a pretty fab birthday and it was far far better than I expected.
My first Grandson was born on the 8th May, Kayden Christopher and even though I doubt we will see much of him (strained realtions between hub and step son) we now have one of each. Cassie is 3 now and such a little madam… cute… but a little madam.
June….. I don’t think alot happened in June……… oh yeah. the school youngest goes to decided to change its name and complete school uniform. I’ve been to the uniform shop today to get a price list and its going to set me back around £100. (new school colours and logo) I’m hoping I can get something week by week but if need be I’ll just be emailing DFD and asking for a partial payment break.
July…. Mick and I have just been away to Rotterdam. Bloody expensive and we stayed in a 5 star hotel for the night. I have never in my life satyed in a 5 star hotel and now I’ve done it I neer have to do it again. talk about Posh. I know how to conduct myself in those surroundings (breeding if you like… well thats what my mother says and she’s a snob!!) but I felt quite uncomfortable. We were looked at as though we shouldn’t be there and it didn’t feel good. The room was amazing and the food was outstanding… the bathrobe was sooooo soft, and I had the best nights sleep ever on that bed. A problem or two with my paypal card which was embarrasing at the time, so I wont be using that unless its for online stuff in the future. it was nice to get away though and I so loved the boat… really really loved it. One to be repeated at least twice a year me thinks. I’d love to do a cruise next year but its still a bit out of our price range…c arefull saving over the next year or two and I’ll get there.
The house is even worse and out TV died a couple of months ago, We’re just using a small one form sons bedroom for now. The walls are even damper and there isn’t much that can be done about it. Next year they will be stripped and pummelled back to brick and start again. I can’t have it done any sooner as we just can’t afford to decorate to the extent that is needed. I think my fridge is on the way out.. but I know they are only about £99 and if need be, I’ll deduct it from a payment. I’m getting a bit blase about it all now. With only 10 months to go… I have been known to pay short and then make it up the following month… as is what I’m doing this month ( I needed spending money for my trip…I didn’t go daft but still need to make it up)
Second son (Jimbob) is 21 next year (september) and I told him today that I’ll pay for him and his girlfriend to go on holiday. His face just lit up! He’s currently out of work and he meets me every shopping day (as they live together) to catch up and put things in my trolley …. ahhh thats where my money goes!!! I love all my children equally but he’s the one who has gone above and beyond being a son. When he was working, he would give me money, pay for my taxi’s home, buy me bits and bobs and he sent me to Cuba!!!!
Daughter has finished college with no prospect of a job and can’t claim JSA till sept, when her Child Beneift runs out., I don’t think thats fair really as I’m more than happy to have it stopped so she can claim but thats not the way it works, so I’m still subbing her and will be till Sept. I just hope that luck shines on my lot and they can find work.
Youngest (Alex) is 14 now and is coupled…. his girlfirends name is Viki and she is such a pretty girl… go Al….lol I don’t now what he wants to do in his adult life but Electritian has been mentioned as has Pshycologist. Weshall see what the future brings for him… he’s still got 2 years of school and then A levels so pleny of time for him to make his mind up.
10 more payments to make and we’ll be debt free. It’s on my phone and my PC calendar… I can’t wait, I really can’t. I know we will never be in debt again… may never be rich but certainly wont be in debt. This IVA has been very very tough and trying but I always said it needed to be, we needed to learna valuable elsson and I think we have….. I’m fortunate that I’ve had my friends on the forum to talk to in all times and I know in my darker times, I wanted to leave. I just felt that I couldn’t offer anyone anything. I still dont think that I can help much but I do try to asnwer what I feel is relavant and hopethat I give the right answer…lol.
I want to go to a FF but cant yet, just cant afford train fares etc and the kids offer I had of a lift from Wickerwish was lovely… Aguise too has offered to pick me up. But money dictates life and its not possible just yet… after May next year………. the world is my oyster and I am damned sure some of my forum buddies will get to clap eyes on me…. ha ha they may wish they never had…lol
Viki’s baby is due this month… I reckon its a girl. well I have always said its a girl…but………….. I do think that I might be wrong… I guess we’ll all find out sooner rather than later.
Keep strong folks..
Lots of love xxxxxxxxxxx